Posted by: yemenia68 | March 13, 2009

Parenthood

baby

I believe the most difficult position/ status in life would be parenthood.  Parenthood comes with a lot of responsibilities. To be a good parent (because apparently perfection is not an option when it’s involving teenagers), you have to realize that this new role you are taking on is going to take up most of your time, if not all of it. So if you’re one of those career -building, ambitious people, it would be a good idea to delay having kids until you are totally prepared to take on the responsibility.  I don’t want to sound like I’m discouraging you from your right to be a parent, but trust me, it is not as easy as you might imagine.
You have to understand how to nurture, teach moral standards, help build self esteem, deal with lifelong difficulties that have nothing whatsoever to do with yourself……….lol, this one in particular is the most exhausting. Imagine getting late night phone calls from your son/daughter complaining about “their” marital problems (I’m telling you, it never ends!)

toddler
The first stage begins right after the baby’s birth and on into childhood. Dealing with sleepless nights, diaper rash, breast feeding (which is something I totally encourage), which only applies to the moms, and constant crying are some of the responsibilities that come with parenthood. The first few months, you will be deprived of a decent night of sleep. Having to figure out why your baby is constantly crying after you have fed, changed and rocked him/her, is another aspect of this stage.  At that point, frustration starts to kick in, but don’t worry, you will get the hang of it after time.

Childhood, being the second stage, is also as exhausting. Throughout this stage, the child starts discovering new things, like language, crawling, walking, and last but not least, finding ways to drive you up the walls with the constant requests and nagging…………lol, just kidding. I believe this is the most essential stage, because the child starts to develop character. Some people seem to think that it is too early for a child to develop character in this stage, but I know better. Everything the child learns in this stage stays forever.  Beware…..do not, I say do not over spoil your child during this stage, because whatever you allow during this stage, can never be adjusted.  Always remember, you are the parent, the child can only accept whatever “you allow”, so don’t forget to always stay in control.

teenager
The next stage, which is adolescence, is probably the most complicated stage in a child’s life. This stage in particular, requires a lot of patience, perseverance, sacrifice, and forgiveness from the parent, in order to maintain a healthy relationship with your child. It doesn’t help raising a child in an environment that encourages rebellion and disrespect, which is why parents need to be very patient, understanding, and comforting towards their children.
Adulthood is the last stage. You may believe that since your child is grown, that your responsibilities are going to diminish, but what you don’t know is that once they are grown and decide to have their own children, you are also responsible for their children as well. The thing is, you are only to be a babysitter, once you start to influence your grandchildren in any way whatsoever, you are “interfering” with their choice of upbringing. 
With all that said, I think that parenthood is the most fulfilling role in a person’s life.  It may get complicated and frustrating at times, but it is an amazing experience.

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